New Year, New Me!!

New Year, New Me!!

 We all know this is BS!! 

Change is a constant thing and it happens naturally, don't force it. And why do we want to change so badly? what's wrong with the current us? 

Usually these "New Year, New Me" changes are changes imposed on us by society, friend or family. They're not really changes we want for ourselves. Instead of being so bent on changing ourselves maybe just take time make a list of pros and cons then work on improving the pros and possibly cutting out the cons.  Real change takes time. Trust me IT TAKES TIME!! and we are always tempted to fall back to old habits, which is why we need to know the whats and whys to our so desired change.

Be you.

Be 20something.

Be selfish!! Let me explain.....

Your twenties is the perfect time to be selfish, selfish with your time and your very being. 


Early twenties, you're probably in college or just starting college, that's the time you want to find yourself, find what makes you happy and where you belong. It's a new environment and you're most likely focused on making friends, some good, some not so good but that's fine because your twenties is your time to explore. 


Mid twenties, you're either finishing college or looking for job opportunities in your career field (maybe) by this time if you're luck you have crossed some major events and travel location off your list, if not, you still have time.


Late twenties, you're working in your career field or maybe you're just looking for jobs in your career field and possibly planning a family (maybe) and sadly at this point you're almost running out of selfish time.


Your early thirties, you either have children or they're on their way (maybe) but at this point it's no longer just you, you can't be selfish with your time anymore, you're now working with everyone's time.


Your twenties is the perfect time to be selfish, travel, exposure your horizon, to fall in and out of love. The perfect time to find who you want to be.

Live a little

"If we wait till we are ready we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives."

I can't say this applies to everyone but I've made so many plans that are carefully mapped out for the perfect time, with the right amount of money or with the right people and it just seems to never work as well as my "impulsive" plans. I don't see the point of pushing something you really want to do aside for the perfect time that probably will never come. There's a quote that says something like this "quit your job, buy a ticket, get a tan and never return."

It doesn't literally mean quit your job or never return but sometimes I take that way too literally. But honestly why not go with the wind? Take care of your responsibilities of course,but also remember to live life. I've been told that I'm a little impulsive but I don't see anything wrong with that. Enjoy life while you still have it.

Christmas Day fun

Christmas was absolutely wonderful. 
I still did not receive any cash but I have come to accept that I won't be receiving any; I'm absolutely fine with that. 

I started my Christmas wrapping presents (last minute presents my aunty didn't wrap so I was left to wrap it). After which we headed to East London where my uncle lives. Since it's Christmas dinner everyone is expected to assist with the cooking, my cousin and I took on the starter. The starter consisted of red wine smoked salmon,  plain salmon, garden salad, tuna stuffed with cheese and green onion all nicely arranged on a small serving plate. The starter was followed by different variety of meat from bacon sausage to beef to lamb and turkey with a side of roasted potatoes which was absolutely delicious, crunchy on the outside and soft inside. I had my meal with some red wine, champagne and water. After the main course we took an hour break to watch a British soap called Eastender, it wasn't  bad. The series is one of those you could watch one episode, place two and two together and figure out what happened previously. So after an hour, we headed back to the dinning room for dessert. The dessert consisted of this traditional British pudding simply called Christmas pudding, it has raisins, lost of raisins, it doesn't really have the creamy consistency of a pudding and before dishing it out, it was first set on fire, it was definitely something different and the pudding was not my favorite thing. Dessert done! some enjoyed it and others not so much. We went on to open the presents, I may not have gotten money but I did get lost of gifts, my favorite was the Balleys Irish cream my uncle gave me ( he knows me so well). The night was nearly over but of course not before we danced (tradition). 

It was a very merry Christmas. 

Merry Christmas

Christmas is a time of celebration, a time of forgiveness and a time for new beginnings. 

If there was ever such a thing as starting afresh Christmas is honestly the best time to do so.

Let bygones be bygones, let old quarrels die, say your final apologies and let all bad thoughts of others go. And don't forget to tell your loved ones how much you care. It's the perfect time to have a clean heart.

Merry Christmas.

Christmas parties

What is Christmas without the parties and family drama.....Thankfully this year the Christmas party had zero drama just fun. 

I attended a Christmas party two nights ago, the people were so cheerful and actually dancing, when I say dancing, I don't mean your ordinary side to side, hands by the chest African dads usually do. Grown men were literally breaking their backs on the dance floor. The ladies were getting it too, to the point that everyone took off their shoes. If you've ever been to an African party you probably noticed that people show up to show off. At this point no one cared what you had on, it was almost like a dance competition and of course some were getting a bit drunk (we all know how that goes). It was a different environment than I was used to for Christmas parties but the night was a very big success. I met lots of family which usually meant lots of cash (ha!! I was so wrong), There was none of that, just people commenting on how grown I've gotten and how I don't suck my thumb anymore (I'm not two years old anymore sooooo... Enemies of progress!!). There's another get together On Christmas Day so I'm keeping my fingers crossed. 

Confidence is seriously the key to success!!

Confidence is seriously the key to success!!

 I was going through a friend's IG follow list and I saw someone I know, so naturally I followed her and started looking through her stuff; I found out she had a blog and me myself I've been wanting to create a blog page and a YouTube page for the longest time but just never got to it. I don't really know what I would talk about or how I would go about it. Plus I never really had the confidence. Now this girl never struck me as  someone who would put herself out there like that but it just goes to prove that once you collect yourself you can do anything you want to.